Chil­dren’s

Where Is Grand­pa Dennis?

Michelle Shapiro Abra­ham; Jan­ice Fried, illus.
  • Review
By – November 1, 2011
To write a book for chil­dren that tack­les the sub­ject of death takes skill and sen­si­tiv­i­ty. This book com­bines both. The book is not about the process of mourn­ing, how­ev­er, in as much as the Grand­pa of the title has passed away long ago. The inter­changes between the moth­er and child are lov­ing, infor­ma­tive and punc­tu­at­ed with draw­ings show­ing the moth­er hold­ing her daugh­ter close. The daugh­ter is named for her grand­fa­ther but nev­er knew him. Her moth­er uses pic­tures and ver­bal mem­o­ries to sketch out why Grand­pa Den­nis was such an impor­tant per­son in the fam­i­ly. The grand­fa­ther died because of an ill­ness, the moth­er explains. But it is made clear that it’s not from a fever or stuffy nose. It’s a dif­fer­ent kind of sick.” The author also describes Jew­ish cus­toms relat­ing to death. For exam­ple, there is an expla­na­tion of the use of the yahrzeit can­dle and a beau­ti­ful illus­tra­tion that accom­pa­nies it. The author also address­es and pro­vides the ratio­nale of the cus­tom of leav­ing stones at the grave site. And then the most impor­tant ques­tion is asked, not once but repeat­ed­ly. But where is Grand­pa Den­nis?” The child under­stands the lit­er­al answer because she has vis­it­ed the ceme­tery and has seen the grave site. After the moth­er asks the child where she thinks her grand­fa­ther is, she then does a superb job of teach­ing what about her belief in a soul that lives on after we die. Ulti­mate­ly, the author tries to answer unan­swer­able ques­tions and does so with ten­der­ness and an under­stand­ing of Jew­ish tra­di­tions. This is a wel­come book that suc­cess­ful­ly deals with the sub­ject of death for Jew­ish chil­dren in a pos­i­tive way. For ages 6 – 10.
Marge Kaplan is a retired Eng­lish as a Sec­ond Lan­guage teacher. She is a con­sul­tant for the children’s lit­er­a­ture group for the Roseville, MN school sys­tem and is a sto­ry­teller of Jew­ish tales.

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