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– November 1, 2011
To write a book for children that tackles the subject of death takes skill and sensitivity. This book combines both. The book is not about the process of mourning, however, in as much as the Grandpa of the title has passed away long ago. The interchanges between the mother and child are loving, informative and punctuated with drawings showing the mother holding her daughter close. The daughter is named for her grandfather but never knew him. Her mother uses pictures and verbal memories to sketch out why Grandpa Dennis was such an important person in the family. The grandfather died because of an illness, the mother explains. But it is made clear that it’s not from “a fever or stuffy nose. It’s a different kind of sick.” The author also describes Jewish customs relating to death. For example, there is an explanation of the use of the yahrzeit candle and a beautiful illustration that accompanies it. The author also addresses and provides the rationale of the custom of leaving stones at the grave site. And then the most important question is asked, not once but repeatedly. “But where is Grandpa Dennis?” The child understands the literal answer because she has visited the cemetery and has seen the grave site. After the mother asks the child where she thinks her grandfather is, she then does a superb job of teaching what about her belief in a soul that lives on after we die. Ultimately, the author tries to answer unanswerable questions and does so with tenderness and an understanding of Jewish traditions. This is a welcome book that successfully deals with the subject of death for Jewish children in a positive way. For ages 6 – 10.
Marge Kaplan is a retired English as a Second Language teacher. She is a consultant for the children’s literature group for the Roseville, MN school system and is a storyteller of Jewish tales.