May 13, 2013
Our “Year in Provence”: this is how Katie Hafner, a New York Times writer and single mother, described her hopes when her own 77-year-old mother moved in with her and her teenage daughter in the wake of a life crisis. But within a few months, this experiment in multigenerational living had turned into a Half-Year in Hell. The story of the experience of three generations of women trying to live under one roof is by turns poignant, funny, heart wrenching, and, ultimately, life affirming. The central question of Mother Daughter Me is this: What is our obligation to our parents as they age, particularly if those parents gave us a truly awful childhood? The family ties so central to Jewish thinking — and particularly vital for the author and her daugther — give this tale a special resonance to JBC audiences. In the end, the book is a story of redemption, acceptance, and coming to terms with the flawed people who happen to be our family members.