Fic­tion

The Bride Who Argued With God: Tales From the Trea­sury of Jew­ish Folklore

Hava Ben-Zvi
  • Review
By – February 24, 2012
Ben-Zvi’s col­lec­tion of sev­en­ty-eight folk­tales focus­es on rela­tion­ships between men and women in nine sec­tions, includ­ing Mar­riages Made In Heav­en,” Trust And Betray­al,” and Daugh­ters.” Sto­ries draw main­ly from the Tales for Each Month series pub­lished in Hebrew between 1961 and 1978 by the Israel Folk­lore Archives at the Uni­ver­si­ty of Haifa. These sto­ries are told by immi­grants who hail from Tunis, Mol­davia, Baby­lo­nia, Cra­cow, Per­sia, Pales­tine, Moroc­co, Prague, Turkey, India, and Roma­nia. Some, like the title sto­ry, where the bride uses the com­mand from Deuteron­o­my that says a man should be free to rejoice with his new wife for one year to hold off the Angel of Death, appear in many oth­er places. Oth­ers, like the sto­ry of the wife who saves her husband’s hon­or by show­ing dif­fer­ent sides of the same mel­on so her husband’s guest will not know that they are so poor, may be new to read­ers. The col­lec­tion suf­fers from not know­ing its audi­ence, how­ev­er. On one hand, sto­ries are sim­pli­fied with notes that explain tra­di­tions and Tal­mu­dic expec­ta­tions of courtship and mar­riage for new­com­ers to Jew­ish cus­tom. On the oth­er, the deci­sion to include some obscure vari­ants and unsa­vory sto­ries lim­it the appeal of the book. It is hard to imag­ine shar­ing a sto­ry where the hus­band beats his wife when she won’t stop pes­ter­ing him or anoth­er in which a rich man is forced to sup­port his son-inlaw whose ugly wife has not had a child. Lan­guage includes some archa­ic phras­ings, such as There­fore nev­er think there is no one to wit­ness your troth,” in the mid­dle of plain­er text. And yet, folk­lorists might wel­come a Moroc­can ver­sion of what the clever wife holds dear­est and the schol­ar­ly inclu­sion of motif, folk­tale type, and IFA vari­ant num­bers. Bib­li­og­ra­phy, index­es, notes.

Sharon Elswit, author of The Jew­ish Sto­ry Find­er and a school librar­i­an for forty years in NYC, now resides in San Fran­cis­co, where she shares tales aloud in a local JCC preschool and vol­un­teers with 826 Valen­cia to help stu­dents write their own sto­ries and poems.

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